Intimacy Anorexia® Characteristics

There are eleven characteristics of intimacy anorexia.

The Hidden Addiction

Intimacy anorexia is a hidden addiction. The way intimacy anorexia presents in relationships and marriages is often not readily apparent and the signs and symptoms can also be confused with other disorders or conditions. Use the characteristics below to help discern if the lack of intimacy you are experiencing in your relationship or marriage is a direct result of intimacy anorexia.


Intimacy anorexics stay so busy that they have little time for their spouse.


The intimacy anorexic will blame their spouse for the problems in the marriage.

Withholding Love

Intimacy anorexics actively withhold love the way their spouses like to be loved.

Withholding Praise

Intimacy anorexics do not regularly give praise to their spouses privately.

Withholding Sex

Not all intimacy anorexics withhold sex, but most intimacy anorexics withhold intimacy during sex when they do have it.

Withholding Spiritually

Intimacy anorexics can be very religious or a spiritual leader, but they rarely connect spiritually at home.

Unable to Share Feelings

The intimacy anorexic is someone who is unwilling or unable to share their feelings with their spouse.


Ongoing or ungrounded criticism toward their partner or spouse is another characteristic of intimacy anorexia.

Anger / Silence

An intimacy anorexic can use anger or silence to control their spouse.


This is the least common feature of intimacy anorexia, but when it’s present, it is really strong. The intimacy anorexic will use money to control or shame the spouse.


The spouse of the intimacy anorexic feels as if they are a roommate rather than a spouse. This is common with intimacy anorexics because they avoid connecting emotionally.

Are You Struggling With Intimacy Anorexia?

Answer the above characteristics as questions. How would your spouse answer them about you? If you or your spouse have five or more of these characteristics mentioned, you may want treatment to heal from Intimacy Anorexia.

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