Reactive Intimacy Anorexia is the active withholding of emotional, spiritual, and/or sexual intimacy
towards one’s spouse as a reaction to the Spouses Intimacy Anorexia

Dr. Weiss has been working with couples for over 30 years, and in working with Intimacy Anorexia in a relationship, there are cases when there are two anorexics. Often, when this occurs, one of them will claim to be reactive to their spouse’s Intimacy Anorexia. In other words, they believe their spouse’s Intimacy Anorexia has caused them to become Intimacy Anorexic as well.

Reactive intimacy anorexia is a real thing. Sometimes the spouse is actually reacting to the identified Intimacy Anorexic, and over the years and decades, they now have a very similar pattern indicating Intimacy Anorexia. However, these symptoms are reactive to their spouse’s behavior.

When this is the case, the reactive Intimacy Anorexic can heal very quickly. This quicker healing time is indicative that they attained their Intimacy Anorexia behavior from their spouse. Therefore, if they are truly Intimacy Anorexic, they will have some of the slower growth patterns towards healing. For example, they will continue to blame their spouse and healing will have an arduous task feeling.

Reactive Intimacy Anorexia is exactly that. It is reacting to the Intimacy Anorexia of the spouse. The definition of Reactive Intimacy Anorexia is active withholding of emotional, spiritual, and/or sexual intimacy towards one’s spouse as a reaction to the spouses Intimacy Anorexia.

Not having enough sex in your relationship may sound like a rather trivial issue. However, a shortage of sex threatens relationships like almost nothing else – and deserves thought and attention.


More Information and Help for Reactive Intimacy Anorexia


Married & Alone Book

The Married and Alone book helps you understand why you feel unloved or disconnected in your marriage. When we marry we hope to have a life of closeness and connectedness with our spouse. Surprisingly some spouses realize that they feel married and alone after their wedding.

Reactive IA

Reactive intimacy anorexia refers to the survival strategy or trauma response adopted by a partner or spouse of an intimacy anorexic, where they mimic the same behavior to protect themselves emotionally.

Married & Alone: Healing Exercises for Spouses

Reactive Intimacy Anorexia DVD is the 19th DVD from the AASAT Intimacy Anorexia Training Course. It covers reactive intimacy anorexia. Dr. Weiss discusses the definition of reactive intimacy anorexia in detail and the differences between an intimacy anorexic and a reactive intimacy anorexic.

Intimacy Anorexia® Book

The Intimacy Anorexia® book addresses what this condition is and the warning signs associated with it. Intimacy Anorexia® is a hidden addiction that is destroying many marriages and relationships.

Married & Alone The DVD

The Married and Alone DVD is for spouses of intimacy and sexual anorexics. You feel disconnected, untouched and often unloved. Dr. Weiss explains why and will help you to start a journey of recovery from living with a spouse with intimacy or sexual anorexia.